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What’s new, perhaps, is the attention introverts are now getting because of the book-and the fact that introversion is actually a much more productive force in organizations and our society than commonly thought. I don’t know that there’s anything new about the fact that about 30 percent of our population-myself included-are introverts. Give them a little bit of a chance because what you do you’ll realize sometimes the quietest people add the most value to the worlds they choose to have a voice in.Are you an introvert? Take the Quiet Quiz on Susan Cain's website by clicking on The Thinker.īy now, you’ve probably heard about Susan Cain’s new book, “ Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.” Time magazine did a cover story and most major publications have followed suit with reviews or features about the power of being quiet. Most the time the first impression you have of someone who is quiet is so wrong. Remember not everyone or everything is what it seems. And we are the best secret keepers, so when you tell us something in confidence we’ll respect that. Whether we are friends or not, if you turn to us and need help we’ll listen without judgment. We’ll always be someone you can trust and confide in. But more than anything we want to trust you and form a deep connection it just takes us a little while to get there. More than anything we want someone who understands us even when we aren’t speaking. We are just waiting for someone who cares to let us into their world first. We just hope you are the one to pull us in. Sometimes quiet people are simply waiting for someone to ask them what they think or ask to hear what they have to say. Our silence doesn’t mean we are pushing you away. In fact being alone we don’t mind at all.

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Sometimes we are really upset and don’t know how to deal with it.īeing alone with our thoughts is the best way to handle a situation before it needs to be addressed. We won’t let our emotions cloud our judgment and we don’t want to say things out of anger we might regret. The truth is we are still trying to understand everything that might have hit us at once. If ever we fight, we might choose to be silent. We just don’t openly express happy moments verbally but in our heads, we are counting our blessings and showing appreciation. Sometimes we are just enjoying the moment. Quiet people aren’t the most unhappy ones in the room. Because the things we do say even if it’s few and far between probably have more weight and value than that noise. We don’t understand people who talk just to hear themselves talk. But we’ve mastered the art of knowing not everything we think, needs to come out of our mouth. Quiet people have a million thoughts running in their head at once. Our silence doesn’t mean we don’t have anything to say. We just won’t say anything if we know you don’t like us.Īnd if we know you don’t like us, we aren’t going to try and win you over or say things you don’t even want to hear, we’ll just choose silence. People who are quiet will be the first to know you don’t like them. But we’re so in tune with people simply by observing, we see the looks we get, we see the rolling eyes, we hear what you’re actually saying when you say it only to be nice. Quiet people have this rep that they don’t like anyone.

Our silence isn’t because we don’t like you. We know we will gain more taking everything in than we ever will talking.

The quote by Epictetus, ‘we have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak,’ is our life. And if you got to know us, you’d realize we are the most down to earth level headed people you know. When we’re quiet there’s an assumption that we’re choosing to be because we don’t want to be bothered or we’re snobby and think we’re better. Our silence isn’t us thinking we are better than you. Just as you think we’re judging you, we’re overcome with fear that you’re judging us. Sometimes the person who brings a lot of energy to the room and is the center of attention intimidates us because we know we could never be that person even if we tried.

The truth is sometimes our silence makes us insecure. There’s this misconceived notion that quiet people are judgmental, as they just sit there taking everything in. Our silence doesn’t mean we are judging you… We fight for the things that matter and we fight for the things we believe in. When something isn’t right or someone is getting hurt, we will be the first going to bat for them. And maybe we will let you get away with pushing us around sometimes but not always. Oksana Lorlova Our silence doesn’t mean we are weak.Ī lot of people think they can walk all over those who are quiet and timid.